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Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

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Sleep Problems (part 3 – the middle of the night screamer)

A child who regularly wakens in the night and won’t go back to sleep without  a parent’s help is SO DRAINING!  The following technique is worthy of your consideration if you have a middle of the night screamer and you are sure that there is nothing wrong with the child ie. ill. The Controlled Crying Technique Step # 1 – when the child wakens and begins to cry, let him cry for 10 minutes – […]

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Sleep Problems (part 2)

Sleep Facts Children differ in their ability to sleep – some are excellent at birth and throughout their childhood (lucky you) – some are inherently more susceptible  to disrupted sleep patterns – it is normal for everyone (adults & children) to have brief wakenings during the night                                                     (most only […]

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Behaviour Management

    First the good news! Children’s behaviour is strongly influenced by the positive and negative consequences that immediately follow from certain actions. If you can set appropriate expectations for behaviour and get the consequences right, your children will follow your household rules – most of the time anyway. Now the bad news . . .  it’s the same news! If whining or throwing tantrums gets your kids something they want, that’s what they’ll do. […]

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Parenting a FASD Infant

The primary developmental task  of all infants is to develop trust (in self and in others). Failure to develop “trust arrests development in all other areas. This task is immeasurably more complicated when the child has FASD.  The development of “trust” is facilitated by the following guidelines: a) CONSISTENCY – the child will benefit from high quality care from the same caregiver in the same                     […]

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Trauma in Children

It is estimated that 40% of North American children will have at least one potentially traumatizing experience by the time they are 18 years old including: – death of a parent or sibling – ongoing abuse – physical, mental, sexual – serious accident – natural disaster – witnessing domestic violence – violent crime How adults respond to children during and after traumatic events can make an enormous difference in the eventual outcome – both for […]

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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