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It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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“Doc, I want you to evaluate my 13 year old son”

    Parent: “Doc, I want you to evaluate my 13 year old son.” Doc: “OK, he’s suffering from a transient psychosis with an intermettent rage disorder, punctuated by episodic radical mood swings, but his prognosis is good for a full recovery.” Parent: “What does all that mean?” Doc: “He’s 13.” Parent: “How can you tell all that without even meeting him?” Doc: “He’s 13.”

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