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Criticism is not a motivator.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you to the skills, techniques and strategies to assess and manage a wide range of behaviour problems (eg. aggression, destruction. noncompliance, swearing, school problems, tantrums, sibling quarreling, etc.). You will learn how to determine the underlying causes of the inappropriate behaviours, develop logical interventions and establish a monitoring system to evaluate progress. Suitable for parents, teachers, daycare, social workers. (6 hours)

Lick Your Kids

 
“Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours)
First the bad news – if you have kids you can really mess them up.
Now the good news – you also have the opportunity to help them become great.
There are 3 powerful forces influencing your child’s development
1.    nature        = his genetic code
2.    nurture       = what you (mom & dad) do
3.    free will     = your child’s independent decisions
You can’t change his genetic code and once your child becomes a certain age you can’t force your will on him, but you always have complete control of your responses to him.
This workshop is filled with sanity saving strategies that provide ideas on how to
effectively respond to:
            – temper tantrums                              – sibling quibbling
            – noncompliance                                – lying
            – setting boundaries                          – stealing
            – breaking curfew                               – allowances
            – using rewards                                  – time out
            – homework hassles                          – messy rooms
            – testing & manipulation                    -much more

A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain



 

A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. It is a brain that has not fully developed. It is a work in progress and has stymied parents for centuries. Modern neuroscience is now explaining biological reasons why:

1. teens can seem so mature one minute and so maddening the next

2. some struggle and some bloom

3. they engage in risky behaviour (drinking, drugs, sex, etc.)

4. they can’t get out of bed before noon on Saturday

5. he / she won’t talk to you anymore

6. they slam doors

Science is tiptoeing on the edge of understanding the teenage brain and the science is changing fast. Understanding the teen brain can lead to smoother relationships between parents and their kids.

 

Reading Rescue

Can you read these?

1. Msot of the wrdos in tihs scetenne are slelped icnrceorlty and yet you are slitl albe to raed it wtuhot mcuh ducfltiify.

2. thewordsinthissentenceareallspelledcorrectlybutitisprobablymoredifficulttoreadthansentencenumberone.

The sentences you just read illustrate what a complex skill reading actually is. You did not use your phonics skills or your whole language skills to read the sentences because most of the words do not conform to the “rules”. And yet you were able to read it by using a set of skills that were not directly taught to you.

Your brain has mastered the skill of reading to such an extent that you are able to pick up subtle clues from the combination of letters and spaces and context and length of word, etc. to make sense of something that actually makes no sense.

Most children are able to learn the basic individual skills of reading in the conventional manner taught in our schools and begin to assimilate the more obscure skills on their own and become proficient readers as you have done. There are however, a significant % of children who for a variety of reasons, have been unable to grasp these skills and consequently have great difficulty in learning to read.

“Reading Rescue” has been developed to assist those children whose “special” learning needs are not being met by regular classroom experiences.

Taming a Toddler

 

 

Most parents of newborns manage pretty well in the first year but as soon as the negative, stubborn, self-centered, unreasonable toddler appears, many parents wonder what has hit them. This workshop explores what constitutes normal toddler development and behaviour, common parental concerns and how to deal with those concerns.




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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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