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The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

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Behaviour Management course in virtual format

Behavioural Management Systems’ renowned course is now available  in a virtual format. This 6 hour course has been presented throughout Ontario to numerous school boards, treatment centres, camp counsellors, First Nation reserves, daycare centres, etc. It comes complete with a comprehensive 50 page workbook,  a Certificate of Training and can be arranged on short notice. Phone or e-mail for more info.

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Teenagers

Between 1996 and 2016, the proportion of girls and women in the US taking antidepressant medications more than doubled, from 7.5 percent to 16.4 percent; more than 1 in 8 females in the US now takes antidepressant medication. Boys and girls are both having problems, but they’re having different problems. Many of the boys who are being sent to the psychologist or psychiatrist are being referred for problems such as ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder. […]

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FASD – early adolescence 13-17 (life’s challenges)

SEXUALITY hormones are probably working fine problems frequently emerge because of lack of boundaries, lack of impulse control, inability to link behaviour and consequences, need for acceptance, social isolation often leads to sexual activity with predictable consequences eg. STD’s, pregnancy, exploitation, easy victimization DRUGS AND ALCOHOL often exploited by older teens & adults substance abuse treatment is generally more difficult, refuses help and more relapses SCHOOL, JOB, DAILY LIFE school frequently causes  extreme stress employment […]

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ADHD – A Frustrated Parent

The following is a quote from a parent that  is both very frustrated and at the same time very concerned about her son. “I can’t take it anymore! We scream all morning to get out of the house. Homework takes hours. If I don’t help him with his work, he’s so disorganized that he’ll never get it done. If I do help him, he screams at me. Since he never finishes anything, everyone thinks he […]

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How Does It Feel to Have ADHD?

The following quotes are from children who have ADHD: “It’s like being in a dark room where objects are scattered around to trip you. You don’t have a flashlight, but everyone else does. You trip around the room, bumping into things, until you finally learn the layout. Then someone moves you to a new room and the process starts all over again.” “Imagine you’re watching twelve channels all at once and you’ve lost the remote.” […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“Rick’s approach is so logical. He helped us clearly define the problem, analyze what has happened and select the best strategy. We now feel empowered to do something positive for our kid”

(A.N. – Tillsonburg)