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When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

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Toilet Training (part 3)

    You would be wise to read my 2 previous postings about toilet training as a review before attempting this actual routine. Remember you can’t go far wrong: if you don’t start too early if you don’t force the child if you don’t panic Step # 1 Does he know he’s wet? Modern disposable diapers are too comfortable. I recommend that you use training pants as wet pants are cold, itchy and uncomfortable. You […]

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Toilet Training (part 2)

    As I stated in my previous blog many toilet training difficulties are really non problems. They stem from either: unrealistic expectations misleading advice A child’s neurological and physiological “systems” must be sufficiently developed in order to gain control of his bladder and bowels and there is a wide variation of ages when these 2 systems converge to make toilet training successful. At around 18 months of age the child’s reflex control begins to […]

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Toilet Training (part 1)

    “I am a grown man with a university degree. I consider myself to be mature, well adjusted and able to exist adequately in our modern society . As such, I never would have believed the exhilaration and pride  I experienced when my son did his first “slam dunk” in the potty” (a parent of a toddler) Often times parents get in too much of a hurry to toilet train their child resulting in […]

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Homework Hassles (part 2)

    There are 2 kinds of homework resistors and each requires a different response: the work is too hard for the child the child views the work as irrelevant, not important or boring 1) If the work is too hard, the child has been placed in an impossible position and his homework resistance will continue and probably escalate. The teacher needs to ensure the work is not beyond the child’s ability and the parent […]

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Homework Hassles (part 1)

    Homework can be a major source of conflict between children and parents. Some children are avoiders, some procastinators, some fail to bring their work home and some do as little as possible. Some do  it too fast and carelessly and some take too long. Frequent battles over homework are harmful to healthy family life. Homework serves two purposes: to provide opportunities to practice and improve skills to teach responsibility, self discipline, independence, perseverance […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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