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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

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What Does a Child With ADHD Look Like?

It is not unusual for children to forget their homework, act impulsively or fidget at the dinner table. but children with ADHD are particularly prone to these types of behaviour. It can be however, difficult to distinguish between ADHD and normal childhood tendencies. If you identify a few of the following traits or  the symptoms only occur in some situations, it’s probably not ADHD. However if you see a number of symptoms in different situations, it would be a wise decision to have an evaluation by a qualified professional.

Symptoms

  • can’t sit still
  • impulsive
  • distractible
  • distracting
  • inattentive
  • disregard rules
  • doesn’t seem to learn from mistakes
  • major school problems
  • causes stress within families
  • few friends – “bugs” others
  • punishments and rewards seem ineffective
  • noncompliant
  • extreme mood swings
  • few inhibitions
  • dreamer
  • fidgets
  • noisy , talks excessively
  • fingers, legs constantly wiggling
  • interrupts conversations
  • invades others space
  • asks irrelevant questions
  • others view child as disrespectful, needy
  • blurts out answers
  • can’t wait
  • difficulty finishing assignments
  • disorganized
  • “careless” mistakes
  • procrastinations
  • forgetful
  • squirming
  • running and climbing when it is inappropriate
  • loud
  • always on the go
  • trouble participating in sedentary activities (ie. circle time at school)
  • impatient
  • difficulty delaying gratification
  • unaware of danger
  • not listening to instructions

It is vitally important to remember that your child is not doing these behaviours on purpose. They are happening because of the way his/her brain is working. Help is available for the child and parents.

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