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Hurt people hurt people.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

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What Can I Do About My Child’s ADD/ADHD ?


My previous blog focused on diagnosing ADD/ADHD and I ended it with the question most parents ask me about ADD/ADHD  - “What do we do about it?”

The answer to this question is also not straight forward as there are numerous directions parents can look – but each option has both positive and negatives and many unsubstantiated claims.

Your conventional options include:

  1. stimulant medications
  2. parent training
  3. family therapy
  4. educational accommodations

Your alternative options:

  1. homeopathy
  2. herbal medicines
  3. supplements eg. zinc, magnesium, iron
  4. essential fatty acids
  5. dietary modifications
  6. anti motion sickness medications
  7. anti fungal medications
  8. neurofeedback
  9. meditation
  10. chiropractic  skeletal adjustments
  11. karate
  12. massage
  13. single vitamin megadoses
  14. vestibular stimulation tricyclic ant-depressants
  15. and many more

Treatment  options for ADD/ADHD are  loaded with controversy. There is considerable empirical evidence supporting the conventional treatment options but many parents are philosophically opposed to using stimulant medications. There are no “slam dunk” behaviour management tricks that are universally successful but there are many parenting tips that are beneficial. There is widespread misunderstanding and in some cases reluctance in schools about how to accommodate ADD/ADHD students.  Many parents tell me that getting teachers onboard is their biggest problem.

Empirical evidence supporting most of the alternative treatment options is limited although there is ample anecdotal evidence supporting some of them as effective. I advise caution when moving this direction because  medical and mental problems that are poorly defined, chronic, troublesome and lacking in clear solutions are fertile ground for speculation and exploitation. ADD/ADHD are all of those things.

Regardless of the directions you end up going, I suggest that you have in place a plan to honestly and accurately  evaluate the  effectiveness of the treatment. Behavioural Management Systems can assist you in developing an objective way to know if you are moving in the right direction.



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