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Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

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THE VICIOUS CYCLE OF BEHAVIOUR PROBLEMS

 

A “vicious cycle of behaviour problems” begins when a child repeatedly performs an inappropriate behaviour and the parent’s attempt to manage it is unsuccessful. The behaviour is repeated many times over a period of time with the results being:

  1. management strategy continues to be less than successful
  2. parent gets angry
  3. the child continues the behaviour
  4. child gets “locked in” and shows no sign of wanting to cooperate
  5. parent gets “locked in” to a strategy that isn’t working

The end results of this cycle are:

  1. the parent’s authority gradually decreases
  2. the child’s “sense of control” increases
  3. the relationship between the parents and the child suffers greatly
  4. “I love my kid, but I really don’t like him much”

The solution to the “vicious cycle of behaviour problems” is for the parent to objectively evaluate their own response to the inappropriate behaviours and consider another response. What parents need most are ideas, because with ideas we get options. Rick Harper has been providing ideas to parents for over 35 years.

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

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Parents' Comments

“We were so naive. We thought our son’s poor behaviour was just a phase he was passing through. Thankfully you led us ‘out of the wilderness'”

(N.S. – London)