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"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

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The Teenage Brain

 

Adolescence is ONE of the times in an individuals life when the greatest brain development is occurring.

  • the brain changes in size and shape
  • grey matter thickens
  • increase in synaptic connections between brain cells
  • specialization within the brain occurs
  • “pruning” of neural pathways occurs
  • sex hormones impact the brain

Neurotransmitters  are chemicals in the brain that facilitate the transmission of messages along nerve cells (billions of messages per second).

The primary neurotransmitters involved with depression are:

  1. serotonin
  2. dopamine
  3. norepinephrine

THE DISREGULATION OF NEUROTRANSMITTERS IS A PRIMARY CONTRIBUTOR TO DEPRESSION.

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Developmental tasks during adolescence

  1. adjust to physical changes
  2. separate from their parents
  3. develop a social network
  4. begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives
  5. develop a sexual identity

All of the above is a lot to expect in a few short years of adolescence = STRESS

“Stress” has a significant effect on parts of the brain involved in the regulation and control of emotions.

Stressful events are among the strongest precipitants of initial episodes of major depression.

DEPRESSION IS A MALFUNCTION OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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