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The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

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The Teenage Brain

 

Adolescence is ONE of the times in an individuals life when the greatest brain development is occurring.

  • the brain changes in size and shape
  • grey matter thickens
  • increase in synaptic connections between brain cells
  • specialization within the brain occurs
  • “pruning” of neural pathways occurs
  • sex hormones impact the brain

Neurotransmitters  are chemicals in the brain that facilitate the transmission of messages along nerve cells (billions of messages per second).

The primary neurotransmitters involved with depression are:

  1. serotonin
  2. dopamine
  3. norepinephrine

THE DISREGULATION OF NEUROTRANSMITTERS IS A PRIMARY CONTRIBUTOR TO DEPRESSION.

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Developmental tasks during adolescence

  1. adjust to physical changes
  2. separate from their parents
  3. develop a social network
  4. begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives
  5. develop a sexual identity

All of the above is a lot to expect in a few short years of adolescence = STRESS

“Stress” has a significant effect on parts of the brain involved in the regulation and control of emotions.

Stressful events are among the strongest precipitants of initial episodes of major depression.

DEPRESSION IS A MALFUNCTION OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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