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The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

Hurt people hurt people.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

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The Good News About Temper Tantrums

  1. children usually outgrow them
  2. they are a normal part of development
  3. they are vehicles which teach children:
  • how to cope with frustration
  • – how to problem solve
  • – communication skills

4. there are a number of strategies parents can use to teach these skills and numerous ideas about preventing them

WARNING – the parent’s understanding about tantrums and their appropriate response to one is critical for the healthy development of children.

How do tantrums make parents feel:

  • nervous
  • anxious
  • angry
  • inadequate
  • frustrated
  • embarrassed
  • guilty
  • more guilty

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