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When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

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Ritalin – the Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Second – the bad

Like all medications, Ritalin has negative side effects. Not all individuals will be affected in the same way but the following list are concerns that have been observed:

  • decreased appetite (hunger returns when meds wear off)
  • weight loss
  • failure to grow
  • insomnia
  • dizziness and drowsiness
  • increase in motor and/or vocal tics
  • increase in heart rate
  • increase in blood pressure
  • abdominal stress (nausea)
  • headaches
  • allergic reactions (rash, hives)
  • nervousness
  • excitement
  • can affect liver function
  • may activate latent epilepsy or glaucoma
  • tolerance develops requiring larger dose
  • makes some children feel “funny”
  • negatively interacts with some drugs
  • “rebound” – hyperactivity returns stronger when drug wears off

The following list includes possible psychosocial side effects:

  • lower self esteem
  • attributes “external” cause for success or failure
  • disowning responsibility for their own provocative behaviour
  • stigmatization by peers
  • family issues remain unresolved
  • need for parenting and teaching changes are buried

The following quote from the American Psychiatric Press – Textbook of Psychiatry –

page 1076 is noteworthy – “Stimulants have not been demonstrated to have long term therapeutic effects”. . . . “It is clear that medication alone is not sufficient treatment”.

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