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It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

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Research on Teens Attitudes

 

 

Reginald Bibby (a  noted Canadian sociologist from the University of Lethbridge) has been traccking the thoughts and beliefs of Canadian teenagers for nearly 30 years. His findings are encouraging as the majority of teens:

  • are not causing undue problems at home
  • have compassion
  • are not in extreme turmoil
  • are honest and polite
  • are not deeply disturbed
  • are forgiving
  • are not totally at the mercy of their impulses
  • are respectful
  • are not overly rebellious
  • are pleasant
  • are not opposed to parental values
  • care about their future
  • are not in trouble with the law
  • do well in school
  • are not seriously abusing drugs and alcohol
  • agree that sex should be associated with meaningful ties
  • expect to get married
  • expect to stay married to the same person for life
  • are opposed to extramarital sex

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“Rick’s approach is so logical. He helped us clearly define the problem, analyze what has happened and select the best strategy. We now feel empowered to do something positive for our kid”

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