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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

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Recommendations for schools regarding children with ADD/ADHD

  1. Whenever possible, special needs children will do better within regular classrooms
  2. Putting more adults in a classroom (ie. EA’s, volunteers, etc.) is good for all children, but especially those who need more immediate feedback and attention.
  3. Traditionally arranged classroom furniture can provide more structure than the “open” concept.
  4. Establish, destigmatize and encourage the use of quiet spaces in the classroom
  5. Standards must be tailored to individual children’s capabilities
  6. ADHD/ADD children generally do better with a “single teacher” routine rather than “rotary”

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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