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The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

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Question to Behavioural Management Systems

 

We have an 8 month old daughter who is very fussy. She cries whenever I put her down and won’t stop until I pick her up again. This happens all day long. I’m getting real tired of it. Please help me.

Answer:

Crying is your babies form of communicating. It is how she lets you know she is hungry, wet, dirty , tired, etc. It is vitally important that you respond appropriately to legitimate cries for help. However, it is possible to create a fussy, demanding baby by responding every time she cries. Babies are fully capable of learning how to manipulate mom and dad. When a new born infants cries parents need to respond and attempt to find the source of discomfort and resolve it. By the time a child is 8 months old, most parents can tell if a cry is communicating genuine distress or simply a desire to be picked up . Picking up an 8 month old baby every time she cries is teaching her a lesson you do not want her to learn. Do not be afraid to let an 8 month old baby cry for a reasonable amount of time when you know by the tone that there is no significant problem that needs to be resolved. You  want the child to learn how to self soothe and responding immediately to an OLDER baby’s every whimper is counter productive.

 

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Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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