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Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Criticism is not a motivator.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

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PARENT / TEACHER RELATIONSHIP

 

Your child will spend 6 hours a day in a classroom with his teacher. That works out to about 1200 hours per year. It is a good idea to touch base with the teacher early in the school year to demonstrate that you care deeply about your child’s  education and that you wish to be a contributing team player in the process. It is important that this first meeting have a positive tone and establish a communication system that works for the teacher (i.e.. phone, e-mail, text, classroom blog, etc.). If or when the teacher identifies an area of concern about your child, it is most productive if you direct the discussion towards ways to solve the problem as early as possible. It is also a good idea to share strategies with the teacher that were successful in previous years and at home.

Sometimes situations arise and a difference of opinion occurs and you are unable to reach and agreement with the teacher. Becoming angry with the teacher usually leads in a direction that is unhelpful. It is much better to remain calm and ask the teacher to include the principal or learning resource teacher in searching for a solution.

Assuming that a suitable solution to the issue is found, I would strongly encourage you to show your appreciation to the teacher by sending a note to the principal expressing your gratitude for the manner in which the school responded to you and your child.  Your relationship with the teacher (and principal) will set the tone for the entire year.

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