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If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

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Not All Blended Families Look Like the Brady Bunch

 

Not all blended families look like the Brady Bunch – in fact not very many do ! The Brady Bunch was a TV sitcom (1969-1973) showing the blending of 2 families. Dad brought 3 boys and mom brought 3 girls into a new blended family. The first season depicted typical adjustments, accommodations and resentments inherent in blended families but in a humorous way with all issues being resolved in 1/2 hour. Later seasons focused on typical family issues such as sibling rivalry, puppy love, self-image, character building, responsibility and teen separation issues again resolving all problems in 1/2 hour. This TV blended family came to look like a natural nuclear family in a little over one year.

Real life blended families seldom follow this same script. Over the years I have been asked to assist numerous blended families adjust to their new reality. Below are some quotes from parents and children from some of those families:

  • “My husband (wife) doesn’t love my child”
  • “Your child doesn’t respect me”
  • “Why can’t my stepchild accept me?”
  • “Your not my mom (or dad). I don’t have to listen to you”
  • “I have more chores than your son does”
  • “Just because he doesn’t live here all the time doesn’t make that fair”
  • “I’m blamed for everything”
  • “She gets away with everything”
  • “You’re the one who wanted to put these two families together – not me”
  • “Why can’t you kids just get along”

If this sounds familiar to you, know that you are in the majority of families who are starting over after a marriage breakup. All family members are building a new lifestyle not necessarily as comfortable to them as the one they left behind. Your new spouse may not be a welcome addition for your children. They were probably not looking for another parent or more brothers and sisters. Compatibility of family personalities often seems an elusive dream for many blended families. It is a difficult task requiring a great deal of perseverance to develop the family feeling the marriage partners expected.

 

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+ Behaviour Management

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First [...]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain [...]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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