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"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Criticism is not a motivator.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

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Getting to Dry – continued

Bladder Training (Part 3 – continued)
There was an interesting experiment a few years ago at a hospital in Helsinki, Finland. The researchers divided a number of enuretic children ranging in age from 6 to 13 into 2 groups.
One group was repeatedly instructed NOT to drink anything at all in the evening. The other group was urged to drink more than normal during the entire day.
By the end of the experimental period, the fluid restricted group’s average functional bladder capacity had decreased by 9%. None of the children in this group stopped wetting, however 17% were wet less often.
The children in the second group were encouraged to drink throughout the day. They received no other instructions or handling.
By the end of the experiment, the group’s functional bladder capacity had increased by 20%, 33% of the children had stopped wetting entirely and 39% were wetting less often.
The researchers concluded:
– more fluid intact = more urine production = larger functional
bladder capacity = dry bed
The key to this experiment was to load up on water throughout the day.

How much water – it appears the more the better !

Next post – I will give some advice that parents have shared with me regarding implementing bladder training.

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