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When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

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Getting to Dry – continued

Bladder Training (Part 3 – continued)
There was an interesting experiment a few years ago at a hospital in Helsinki, Finland. The researchers divided a number of enuretic children ranging in age from 6 to 13 into 2 groups.
One group was repeatedly instructed NOT to drink anything at all in the evening. The other group was urged to drink more than normal during the entire day.
By the end of the experimental period, the fluid restricted group’s average functional bladder capacity had decreased by 9%. None of the children in this group stopped wetting, however 17% were wet less often.
The children in the second group were encouraged to drink throughout the day. They received no other instructions or handling.
By the end of the experiment, the group’s functional bladder capacity had increased by 20%, 33% of the children had stopped wetting entirely and 39% were wetting less often.
The researchers concluded:
– more fluid intact = more urine production = larger functional
bladder capacity = dry bed
The key to this experiment was to load up on water throughout the day.

How much water – it appears the more the better !

Next post – I will give some advice that parents have shared with me regarding implementing bladder training.

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