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Parenting style matters - a lot!

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

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FASD

FASD – What is it?

  • it is damage to the brain and body
  • the damage is caused by alcohol consumption by the mother during pregnancy
  • it is the leading cause of mental retardation in North America
  • its effects are irreversible and lifelong
  • its effects vary from slight to devastating

Characterized by:

  • growth deficiency
  • central nervous system dysfunction (ie. brain damage)
  • special facial features (not always)
  • body malformation (not always)

Fetal Alcohol Related Problems have Significant Impact on:

  • individuals
  • families
  • schools
  • treatment centres
  • jails
  • health system

The cost of providing services for 1 individual with FASD for a lifetime have risen dramatically:

  • 1980     =     $500,000
  • 1989     =     $1,400,000
  • 1994     =     $2,400,000
  • current =        ?
  • future    =     ? ? ?

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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