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The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Criticism is not a motivator.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Does This Sound Familiar?

Does any of this sound familiar?
                  – “No, you cannot have another glass of water”
                  – “Look at that closet; what do you mean you have nothing to wear?”
                  – “This room should be condemned by the Board of Health.”
                  – “Do you think money grows on trees?”
                  – “Get out of bed this instant?”
                  – “Get into bed this instant?”
                  – “What is that on the floor?”
                  – “No child of mine is going to school dressed like that!”
                  – “It’s 10 P.M. and now you tell me your history project is due tomorrow!”
                  – “If you’re not hungry enough to eat broccoli, you are certainly not hungry enough to get dessert”
                  – “How many times do I have to tell you to lift the toilet seat?”
 
These things happen to us all. There isn’t any parent who hasn’t gone “over the top” with their kids. No one!
 
Now, not all parents lose it at the very same spot;
– some breeze through toddlerhood only to turn the corner and be “T-boned” by   their preteen. On the other hand it could just as easily go the other way – preteens seem like a piece of cake while it is the little tykes that undo you.
 
Consider giving Rick Harper a call.   (519) 485-4678
 

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

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