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Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Hurt people hurt people.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Differential Diagnosis – could it be something other than depression?

The symptoms outlined above could be caused by other conditions:
                  eg.           – parasitic diseases                               – Lyme disease
                                    – virus                                                           – mononucleosis
                                    – brain diseases                                       – lesions, tumor
                                    – allergic disorders                                – hypothyroidism
                                    – chronic infections                                - lupus
                                    – immunological diseases                 -hepatitis
                                    – other mental disorders
                                    – alcohol / drug abuse
                                    – sexual abuse
                  – HIV/AIDS – immune problems
                  – diabetes – inability to metablize sugar
                  – migraine – more than just bad headaches
                  – lupus – type of arthritis
                  – cystic fibrosis – respiratory disease
                  – chronic fatigue syndrome – long term debilitating fatigue
                  – fibromyalgia – severe, chronic muscle aches
                  – inflammatory bowel disease – eg. Crohns
                  – thyroid problems – hypo & hyper
                  – multiple sclerosis – damage to coating of neurons
                  – head injury
                  – other

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+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you [...]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First [...]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain [...]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca


Parents' Comments

“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)