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Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Criticism is not a motivator.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Developmental Tasks During Adolescence

DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS DURING ADOLESCENTS

1) adjust to physical changes
2) separate from their parents
3) develop a social network
4) begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives
5) develop a sexual identity
 
 
All of the above is a lot to expect in the few short years of adolescence  = STRESS
 
 
STRESS HAS A SIGNIFICANT EFFECT ON PARTS OF THE BRAIN
INVOLVED IN THE REGULATION AND CONTROL OF EMOTIONS
 
 
 
STRESSFUL EVENTS ARE AMONG THE STRONGEST PRECIPITANTS OF INITIAL EPISODES OF MAJOR DEPRESSION
 
 
 
DEPRESSION IS A MALFUNCTION OF STRESS MANAGEMENT !
 
 

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

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