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Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Parenting style matters - a lot!

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

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Delayed Gratification

 

“Compared to previous generations, young people are more likely to want lots of money and nice things but are less likely to say they’re willing to work hard to earn them.” (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin)

A prime example of this is the number of children and teens who have their own smart phone, but do absolutely nothing to earn the privilege of the device. Those who don’t have a smart phone, feel deprived and many attempt to convince their parents. Teen entitlement and inability to delay gratification are significant problems in today’s culture.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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