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If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

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Columbine High School

COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL 1999
– the two perpetrators (both committed suicide)
                                    – one was being treated for psychiatric disorder
                                    – both in trouble with the law
                                    – both were socially isolated “losers”
                                    – both had been bullied
                                    – both enduring pain
This was a big story in 1999 but it is not the biggest story – most teens suffer alone, invisibly and their eventual suicides never make to TV news
 
THE ISSUE SHOULD BE – CAN WE PREVENT OTHER “TICKING TIME BOMBS”
 
A typical high school of 1000 students
                  – 180 have thoughts of suicide
                  – 50 make an attempt

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