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Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Criticism is not a motivator.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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ADHD Medication

    It is an understandable reaction for parents when a doctor prescribes  ADHD medications. There are so many questions and the doctor has so little time to answer them. Is the medication safe? How will we know if it is working? Are there side effects? Will my child feel like a zombie? In the next few blogs, I will attempt to shed some light on these questions  

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Biochemical Approach to Treating ADD/ADHD

One of the treatment approaches to helping a child with ADD/ADHD is biochemical or pills. The medical community by in large endorses the theory that ADD/ADHD is caused by an imbalance of the neurotransmitters in the brain. The treatment frequently recommended by doctors is to give the child a pill that will bring the neurotransmitters into balance. Some of the more commonly prescribed meds include Ritalin, Concerta, Strattera (there are a number of others). Doctors […]

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“DOOM” by Lori – age 15

DOOM                                       by Lori – age 15                                     The only visible light                                               Into darkness                                     The only relief is                                     Cut into my flesh                                     As deep as sadness                                     Pain passes away                                     But I will be left with the scars                                     From the past                                       I hear vividly the sounds                                     The screams.                                     I am but a bug                                     Invisible to life                                     Picked on when sought.                                     Pain is an […]

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Sound Familiar ?

“Mom, Dad, Jason punched me!” “I did not! Patrick took my Game Boy, and I just put out my hand a little to get it back” “Mom, Jason’s lying!  I didn’t take his stupid Game Boy!” “Dad, Patrick’s kicking me! Tell him to stop it! Ow! Mom, Dad, Jason’s pulling my hair!” Sibling quibbling is one of the most often complaints I hear from parents. Sibling rivalry has existed as long as we’ve had siblings. […]

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Tactics for Tantrums (part 1)

My next several posts will offer ideas about handling toddler’s tantrums. They are based on the premise that some tantrum throwing will and should occur and that our job as parents is to make it as painless as possible for all participants. 1. The Ignore Tactic To use the ignore tactic the parent totally ignores the child’s dramatic performance. Look busy. Bustle around the house, sweeping, dusting or stacking magazines. Do not, however, try to […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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