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A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

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11 Problems Associated with Providing Foster Care to “Disturbed” Children

1. removal from the “maltreating” home is delayed
2. “maltreating” parents continue to sabotage current placement
3. increase in severity of disturbance in today’s foster / adopted children
4. inadequate preparation and follow-up support to foster /  adoption parents
5. failure to equip foster / adoption parents with practical   therapeutic strategies
6. foster / adoption parents receive a “disturbed” child, and are then later misperceived that they might  be the source of the child’s disturbance
7. the foster / adopted families are excluded from the “treatment team” though they are the ones who  often know the child best and who have the greatest  therapeutic impact on them
8. foster parents are given the most responsibility and  the least amount of authority
9. foster parents are asked to become intimately involved with the child, yet are “chastised” if they become “overly zealous advocates” for the  child
10. little or no respite care to allow for parent refueling
11. the “experts” don’t have the answers
 
OVERCOMING ATTACHMENT DISORDER IS NO EASY TASK –
THE REWARDS HOWEVER LAST A LIFETIME
 

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Parents' Comments

“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)