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When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

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Adolescent Narcissism

Adolescence is the prime time for humans to become completely immersed in narcissism. Teens will often start sentences with the word “I” and end with “Me” with several good ‘My’s”, “Mine” and “Myself” sprinkled throughout. Any family decision will be deemed important only by how much it affects the teen. To the teenage mind, having to go someplace he/she doesn’t want to go is a complete waste of precious time that could be wisely spent on the phone, in front of the TV or on the computer.

It appears that this narcissistic attitude is so prevalent among teenagers that it must be part of the developmental process. Thankfully, this stage will pass  – probably !

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

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