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Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Hurt people hurt people.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

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ADHD and the Brain

“The human brain is the best organized, most complex , highest functioning object in the universe.” (Kenneth Wesson)

An adult brain weighs about 3 pounds and has over 1 trillion cells (100 billion of them are neurons) and the cell connections within the brain number  about 1 quadrillion. The brain stores bits of information and can accomplish processes of unfathomable complexity. Unlike a computer (which simply regurgitates information) the brain can initiate new thoughts and experience emotions. The brain is a highly organized structure made up of 3 distinct sections.

a) Brain Stem – this is the most primitive part deep within the skull. It is similar in appearance to a reptile’s brain and controls unconscious body functions (eg. breathing, heart rate, body temperature, blood pressure). It works tirelessly and continuously performing its functions throughout your lifetime.

b) Cerebellum – The primary function of this small grey structure that surrounds the brain stem coordinates purposeful movement.

c) Cerebral Cortex – This outer portion of the brain deals with behaviour, concepts, emotions and personality. It is the part of the brain that distinguishes humans from lower animals. It is divided down the middle into 2 hemispheres and each hemisphere is divided into 4 lobes. The frontal lobe is the part of the brain that assigns priorities and sends signals to other portions of the brain. Among its many jobs is to:

  • organize information
  • interpret information
  • evaluate information
  • weed out unimportant information
  • assign  priorities

Most researchers and doctors suspect that it is frontal lobe malfunction that is responsible for ADHD.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)