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Parenting style matters - a lot!

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Hurt people hurt people.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Criticism is not a motivator.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

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BREASTFEEDING AND ALCOHOL

 

The milk of a breast feeding mother will have the same concentration of alcohol as the alcohol level in her bloodstream. This means that a nursing baby will consume alcohol if mother has. A baby has a very tiny and immature liver that must process the alcohol. It will take the child considerably longer for the alcohol to be metabolized and discharged from his/her body.

Studies show that alcohol can negatively effect a baby’s eating and sleeping:

1. Eating – babies whose mother drank 4 ounces of wine, 1 mixed drink or one can of beer consumed 20% less milk than the babies of the abstaining moms

2. Sleep – babies of the alcohol drinking mothers became drowns and fell asleep more quickly but they slept a shorter amount of time

3. Development – a landmark study of 400 one year old babies showed a significant lag in gross motor development in moderate drinking mothers

While no one knows the true effect that alcohol has on breastfed infants, it appears that abstaining from alcohol would be a wise thing to do.

Information published by La Leche League states:

“Alcohol passes freely into mother’s milk and has been found to peak about 30 to 60 minutes after consumption. It takes a 120 pound woman about 2-3 hours to eliminate from her body the alcohol in one serving of beer or wine – the more alcohol that is consumed the longer it takes for it to be eliminated.”

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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