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"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

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Sound Familiar ?

“Mom, Dad, Jason punched me!”

“I did not! Patrick took my Game Boy, and I just put out my hand a little to get it back”

“Mom, Jason’s lying!  I didn’t take his stupid Game Boy!”

“Dad, Patrick’s kicking me! Tell him to stop it!

Ow! Mom, Dad, Jason’s pulling my hair!”

Sibling quibbling is one of the most often complaints I hear from parents. Sibling rivalry has existed as long as we’ve had siblings. In Biblical times we head Cain and Abel, Joseph and his brother problems. In children’s literature we have Cinderella. It seems that “rivalry” naturally follows the word “sibling” despite the fact that there are many solid sibling relationships within families.

Conflict between siblings isn’t unique to humans either. it happens in just about every animal species that raises several young at the same time although human children don’t usually have to compete with each other for the basics of life – food, shelter, water. It seems human children are compelled to compete over other things.

Sibling bickering can take more joy out of parenting than probably any other aspect of child rearing. There are some tried and true approaches to managing sibling rivalry.

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