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Hurt people hurt people.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

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Behavioural Characteristics of FASD

Behaviour problems with individuals with FASD are a major concern for parents and schools:

  • learning disabilities

– academic

– ADD / ADHD

– speech and language

– information processing

– patterning problems

  • poor impulse control
  • inability to relate behaviour to consequences
  • no sense of connection to societal rules
  • poor short term memory
  • inconsistent knowledge base
  • poor personal boundaries
  • confusion under pressure
  • difficulty grasping abstract concepts
  • inability to manage his/her anger
  • inability to manage other’s anger
  • poor judgement
  • stubborn

These behaviours can be quite overwhelming to the child, parents and teachers.

It means that everyday there are problems, punishments, and frustrations.

The problems start at birth and frequently increase with age and are resistant to regular types of discipling and counselling.

School usually emphasizes the child’s problems.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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