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Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

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Limit Testers

 
ENTHUSIATIC
 LIMIT TESTERS
 
Many children :
                  1. do not stop when told
                  2. don’t respect rules
                  3. don’t respect authority
                  4. lack basic social skills
                  5. have emotional problems
                  6. have learning disabilities
                  7. do NOT have  an identified diagnosis
 
MOST ARE SIMPLY EXERCISING THEIR WILLPOWER
Parents have tried:
                  – lectures
                  – threatening
                  – reasoning
                  – explaining
                  – bribing
                  – cajoling                                                      WITHOUT
                  – writing names on board       
                  – taking away recess                            SUCCESS
                  – writing out lines
                  – time out
                  – sending to office
                  – giving detentions
                  – daily reports home
                  – involving parents
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PARENTS ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN
WITH THE TOOLS THEY HAVE
BUT
THEY AREN’T WORKING
AND THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO
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Behaviour management requires as much or more time and energy as any other parenting task !
 
 
 
 
 
Behaviour management is simply too important to be neglected or handled ineffectively !
 
 
 
 
The cost of ineffective behaviour management is too great !

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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