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Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Parenting style matters - a lot!

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Criticism is not a motivator.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

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ENTHUSIATIC
 LIMIT TESTERS
 
Many children :
                  1. do not stop when told
                  2. don’t respect rules
                  3. don’t respect authority
                  4. lack basic social skills
                  5. have emotional problems
                  6. have learning disabilities
                  7. do NOT have  an identified diagnosis
 
MOST ARE SIMPLY EXERCISING THEIR WILLPOWER
Parents have tried:
                  – lectures
                  – threatening
                  – reasoning
                  – explaining
                  – bribing
                  – cajoling                                                      WITHOUT
                  – writing names on board       
                  – taking away recess                            SUCCESS
                  – writing out lines
                  – time out
                  – sending to office
                  – giving detentions
                  – daily reports home
                  – involving parents
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PARENTS ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN
WITH THE TOOLS THEY HAVE
BUT
THEY AREN’T WORKING
AND THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO
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Behaviour management requires as much or more time and energy as any other parenting task !
 
 
 
 
 
Behaviour management is simply too important to be neglected or handled ineffectively !
 
 
 
 
The cost of ineffective behaviour management is too great !

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A program for children with reading problems

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