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If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Parenting style matters - a lot!

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

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Phobias

Phobias are a type of anxiety disorder usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation typically disproportional to the actual danger posed. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of phobias  (see – www.phobialist.com).

Some of the more common ones are:

  • dogs                                  Cynophobia
  • Friday 13                         Paraskavedekatriaphobia
  • thunderstorms               Brontophobia
  • loud noises                     Ligyrophobia
  • nighttime                        Nyctophobia
  • snakes                             Ophidiophobia
  • spiders                            Arachnephobia
  • writing tests                 Testophobia
  • dentists                           Dentophobia
  • hospitals                        Nosocomephobia

Some that seem particularly odd: (at least to me !)

  • becoming bald           Phalacrophobia
  • bathing                         Ablutophobia
  • beds                              Clinophobia
  • clocks                           Chronophobia
  • colour purple              Porphyrophobia
  • mother-in-law           Pentheraphobia
  • peanut butter              Arachibutyrophobia
  • politicians                   Politicophobia
  • sitting down               Kathisophobia
  • teenagers                     Ephabiphobia

Phobias can interfere greatly in a persons enjoyment of life. Thankfully there are a number of treatments available including:

  • cognitive behaviour therapy
  • counter conditioning
  • hypnosis
  • systematic desensitization
  • antianxiety medications

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