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The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Criticism is not a motivator.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

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Consequencing Teenagers

Identifying and following through on appropriate consequences is a major part of the job description for parents of teenagers. A consequence for inappropriate behaviour typically involves one of two options: a) removing a desirable (example – removal of computer privileges) b) adding an undesirable (example – adding a chore) Removing something the teen wants is usually more effective and easier to administer and monitor than adding something he/she doesn’t want. An effective consequence must involve […]

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The Teenage Brain

 THE TEENAGE BRAIN   Adolescence is one of the times in an individual’s life when the greatest brain development is occurring.   – brain changes in size and shape – gray matter thickens – increase in synaptic connections between brain cells – specialization within brain occurs – “pruning” of pathways – sex hormones impact on brain   Neurotransmitters are chemicals in the brain that facilitate the transmission of messages along nerve cells (billions of messages […]

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Temper Tantrum (statistics)

1 year old       =     14% have tantrums daily 2-3 years old =     20% have tantrums daily 4 years old     =     11% have tantrums daily 5-6 years old =     5% have tantrums daily Adults have tantrums, but we usually say they’re “making a scene” Tantrums can occur at any time or place, but there are certain places where they are more likely or […]

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Temper Tantrums

Tantrums are a normal and healthy part of the developing process for children. They are sometimes the only way a little one can tell us they disagree, feel frustrated, are tired or hungry or overwhelmed or bored. Their language skills and understanding of feelings and relationships have not developed to the point where intense feelings can be expressed in more acceptable ways. Tantrums first appear at about 1 year of age and usually ease up […]

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Consequencing Teenagers

Identifying and following through on appropriate consequences is a necessary but challenging task   for many parents of teenagers . A consequence for inappropriate behaviour typically involves one of two directions: a) removing a desirable ( example – removal of computer privileges) b) adding an undesirable (example – extra chores) Removing something the teen wants is usually more effective than adding something he/she doesn’t want. Why? – often the teenager is already involved in a […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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