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Parenting style matters - a lot!

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

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FASD

FASD lasts a lifetime and creates countless problems for everyone. Individuals with FASD must contend with stress, obstacles, loneliness and failure at levels that exceed those experienced by most people. The amount of change that a child with FASD can accomplish on his own is seldom enough to get him successfully through life.

PREPARING PEOPLE WITH FASD FOR LIFE

Protective measures that can alleviate some problems include:

  1. living in a stable and nurturing home
  2. protection from violence and abuse
  3. receiving services and education suitable for their needs
  4. early diagnosis

The primary goal should be to develop a healthy emotional life and   a healthy family is a haven of protection and the most important learning centre. It is possible to manage and overcome many of the obstacles presented by FASD if enough supports are provided over a long enough period of time

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Contact

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We were so naive. We thought our son’s poor behaviour was just a phase he was passing through. Thankfully you led us ‘out of the wilderness'”

(N.S. – London)