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The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Hurt people hurt people.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Behaviour Management (now available online)

Behavioural Management Systems’ renowned course is now offered  online or in person. This 6 hour course has been presented throughout Ontario to numerous school boards (public, separate & private), children’s mental health treatment centres, camp counsellors, First Nation reserves, daycare centres, community colleges, Children’s Aid Societies, etc. It is especially relevant to educational assistants assigned to work with students with concerning behaviour issues and can become an integral part of the student’s I.E.P. Participants in […]

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Medications for ADHD and Future Substance Abuse

ADHD MEDICATIONS AND FUTURE SUBSTANCE ABUSE I am frequently asked by parents of children taking stimulant medications for ADHD if they are at an increased risk for future substance abuse. Research suggests that children with ADHD do have a tendency towards future abuse problems at a rate 2 to 3 times that of children without ADHD, but the research does not indicate that it is the medication that causes this increased risk. Research recently published […]

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What Happens During a Psychiatric Assessment

What Does a Psychiatric Health Assessment Consist of?     1. conversation between a: – professionals – parents – teen (these conversations may take several hours or days) 2. may involve lab work     3. questionnaires       4. info from school, counsellors, etc.

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What is the Best Option for My Child?

The best option is the one that will work for your child. Each one of the approaches has strengths and weaknesses and each could be the “best” or the “worst” depending on specific circumstances. No one of the approaches will meet the needs of all children. In my opinion, the best course of action for a concerned parent may be to combine several options. The child’s pediatrician should be involved looking for abnormal medical conditions […]

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Prevalence of ADD / ADHD

    Various experts give different rates of prevalence but most say between 5 – 10 % of North American children have one or the other – that’s a lot. It means that there are probably 2 or 3 children in most classrooms that have one of these disorders – and school can be a very unfriendly place for a child with ADD / ADHD. The researchers tell us that about 70% of these children […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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