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Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

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Asperger’s Syndrome (part 2)

 

 

 

There are no “hard” diagnostic tests for Asperger’s. The diagnosis is made through observation and reports from parents, teachers, etc. The majority of children with Asperger’s are diagnosed between the ages of 5 and 11 although a diagnosis may not be made until adulthood.

There is no “cure” for Asperger’s Syndrome, however there are interventions that can yield positive results:

  • parental education
  • teacher education
  • behavioural approaches
  • training of social skills (ABA,IBI)
  • medications to relieve some of the symptoms (hyperactivity, irritability, aggression, compulsions, anxiety, depression)

What Can a Parent Do?

  1. have your child evaluated by a qualified medical doctor
  2. develop an Individual Educational Plan (IEP) with your child’s school
  3. ensure ALL adults working with your child are educated about Asperger’s
  4. think about “where do you want your child to be in the next 5, 10, 15 years” and plan and teach him/her the required skills

Individual with Asperger’s Syndrome perceive the world differently and many behaviours that seem odd, unusual or inappropriate are due to neurological differences and are NOT the result of intentional rudeness or bad behaviour and are most certainly not the result of bad parenting.

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