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If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

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Research on Teens Attitudes

 

 

Reginald Bibby (a  noted Canadian sociologist from the University of Lethbridge) has been traccking the thoughts and beliefs of Canadian teenagers for nearly 30 years. His findings are encouraging as the majority of teens:

  • are not causing undue problems at home
  • have compassion
  • are not in extreme turmoil
  • are honest and polite
  • are not deeply disturbed
  • are forgiving
  • are not totally at the mercy of their impulses
  • are respectful
  • are not overly rebellious
  • are pleasant
  • are not opposed to parental values
  • care about their future
  • are not in trouble with the law
  • do well in school
  • are not seriously abusing drugs and alcohol
  • agree that sex should be associated with meaningful ties
  • expect to get married
  • expect to stay married to the same person for life
  • are opposed to extramarital sex

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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