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Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

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Sound Familiar ?

“Mom, Dad, Jason punched me!” “I did not! Patrick took my Game Boy, and I just put out my hand a little to get it back” “Mom, Jason’s lying!  I didn’t take his stupid Game Boy!” “Dad, Patrick’s kicking me! Tell him to stop it! Ow! Mom, Dad, Jason’s pulling my hair!” Sibling quibbling is one of the most often complaints I hear from parents. Sibling rivalry has existed as long as we’ve had siblings. […]

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Tactics for Tantrums (part 1)

My next several posts will offer ideas about handling toddler’s tantrums. They are based on the premise that some tantrum throwing will and should occur and that our job as parents is to make it as painless as possible for all participants. 1. The Ignore Tactic To use the ignore tactic the parent totally ignores the child’s dramatic performance. Look busy. Bustle around the house, sweeping, dusting or stacking magazines. Do not, however, try to […]

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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