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If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Criticism is not a motivator.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

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Sad or Depressed – What’s the Difference?

 

 

Sadness is an unpleasant emotion in response to certain events:

Examples – loss of a loved one

– disappointment in missing a hoped- for opportunity

– struggling to adapt to unwelcome changes

These and a multitude of other circumstances can result in a process that takes us through a sequence of emotions including worry, anxiety, tears, grieving which ultimately brings us relief. This is a healthy process.

Depression is not healthy. Depression occurs when sadness is partnered with a change in how we view ourselves and others. We tend to think less of ourselves than usual. We can’t forgive ourselves the slightest mistake. We may see others as cold and uncaring. We can’t appreciated partial success, or see the silver lining in the cloud. We feel helpless and defeated. We can’t imagine facing challenges and moving forward.

In short, sadness repairs, depression impairs.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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