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If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Parenting style matters - a lot!

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Criticism is not a motivator.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

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Behavioural Characteristics of FASD

Behaviour problems with individuals with FASD are a major concern for parents and schools:

  • learning disabilities

– academic

– ADD / ADHD

– speech and language

– information processing

– patterning problems

  • poor impulse control
  • inability to relate behaviour to consequences
  • no sense of connection to societal rules
  • poor short term memory
  • inconsistent knowledge base
  • poor personal boundaries
  • confusion under pressure
  • difficulty grasping abstract concepts
  • inability to manage his/her anger
  • inability to manage other’s anger
  • poor judgement
  • stubborn

These behaviours can be quite overwhelming to the child, parents and teachers.

It means that everyday there are problems, punishments, and frustrations.

The problems start at birth and frequently increase with age and are resistant to regular types of discipling and counselling.

School usually emphasizes the child’s problems.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)