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Criticism is not a motivator.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

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Columbine High School

COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL 1999
– the two perpetrators (both committed suicide)
                                    – one was being treated for psychiatric disorder
                                    – both in trouble with the law
                                    – both were socially isolated “losers”
                                    – both had been bullied
                                    – both enduring pain
This was a big story in 1999 but it is not the biggest story – most teens suffer alone, invisibly and their eventual suicides never make to TV news
 
THE ISSUE SHOULD BE – CAN WE PREVENT OTHER “TICKING TIME BOMBS”
 
A typical high school of 1000 students
                  – 180 have thoughts of suicide
                  – 50 make an attempt

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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