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Parenting style matters - a lot!

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Criticism is not a motivator.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

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The Good News About Temper Tantrums

  1. children usually outgrow them
  2. they are a normal part of development
  3. they are vehicles which teach children:
  • how to cope with frustration
  • – how to problem solve
  • – communication skills

4. there are a number of strategies parents can use to teach these skills and numerous ideas about preventing them

WARNING – the parent’s understanding about tantrums and their appropriate response to one is critical for the healthy development of children.

How do tantrums make parents feel:

  • nervous
  • anxious
  • angry
  • inadequate
  • frustrated
  • embarrassed
  • guilty
  • more guilty

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We were so naive. We thought our son’s poor behaviour was just a phase he was passing through. Thankfully you led us ‘out of the wilderness'”

(N.S. – London)