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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

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The Good News About Temper Tantrums

  1. children usually outgrow them
  2. they are a normal part of development
  3. they are vehicles which teach children:
  • how to cope with frustration
  • – how to problem solve
  • – communication skills

4. there are a number of strategies parents can use to teach these skills and numerous ideas about preventing them

WARNING – the parent’s understanding about tantrums and their appropriate response to one is critical for the healthy development of children.

How do tantrums make parents feel:

  • nervous
  • anxious
  • angry
  • inadequate
  • frustrated
  • embarrassed
  • guilty
  • more guilty

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

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