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We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

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FASD – Wisdom from Long Ago

“You will conceive and give birth to a son. Now then, drink no wine or other fermented drink.” ( Judges 13:7) In ancient Carthage, a ritual developed that forbade the drinking of wine by the bridal couple so that a defective child would not be conceived.                                                           […]

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FASD

FASD is 100% preventable. If women did not drink alcohol during pregnancy, there would be no more children born with FASD. Even drinking on a social basis can have an effect on your unborn child (even a glass of wine with dinner or a can of beer watching TV. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO STOP DRINKING – your child will be better off. “Many thing we need can wait, the child cannot. Now is […]

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FASD

FASD lasts a lifetime and creates countless problems for everyone. Individuals with FASD must contend with stress, obstacles, loneliness and failure at levels that exceed those experienced by most people. The amount of change that a child with FASD can accomplish on his own is seldom enough to get him successfully through life. PREPARING PEOPLE WITH FASD FOR LIFE Protective measures that can alleviate some problems include: living in a stable and nurturing home protection […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Contact

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

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