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"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Hurt people hurt people.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

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More FAQ about ADD/ADHD

3. What are the theories about causes of ADD,ADHD? There have been many theories about the cause of ADD/ADHD but there is no consensus among the experts. a) brain injury – caused by trauma or disease – this was one of the first theories however current thinking suggests that this causes relatively few cases b) delayed brain maturation – the brain is simply slow in developing some of its functions and it will eventually catch […]

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The Problem with ADD/ADHD Assessments

The medical community uses the term “diagnosis drives treatment”.  This means that a correct diagnosis must be made before a treatment is prescribed. This is quite straight forward with many medical problems (examples – throat infections, cancer, heart attacks, broken bones, abscess tooth, etc) as there are diagnostic tests that can definitively identify the problem (examples – blood tests, bacterial cultures, MRI, biopsies, X rays, etc). The problem diagnosing  ADD/ADHD (and many other problems in […]

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Sleep Problems (part 1)

“Children are a comfort in our old age, it is true; and often children help us reach it faster too”. “My children are the perfect age . . . too old to cry at night and too young to ask for the car.” Sleep problems are not the same in children as they are in adults. For example, infants and toddlers who are not sleeping well do not complain – their parents do. Young children […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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