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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

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PARENT / TEACHER RELATIONSHIP

 

Your child will spend 6 hours a day in a classroom with his teacher. That works out to about 1200 hours per year. It is a good idea to touch base with the teacher early in the school year to demonstrate that you care deeply about your child’s  education and that you wish to be a contributing team player in the process. It is important that this first meeting have a positive tone and establish a communication system that works for the teacher (i.e.. phone, e-mail, text, classroom blog, etc.). If or when the teacher identifies an area of concern about your child, it is most productive if you direct the discussion towards ways to solve the problem as early as possible. It is also a good idea to share strategies with the teacher that were successful in previous years and at home.

Sometimes situations arise and a difference of opinion occurs and you are unable to reach and agreement with the teacher. Becoming angry with the teacher usually leads in a direction that is unhelpful. It is much better to remain calm and ask the teacher to include the principal or learning resource teacher in searching for a solution.

Assuming that a suitable solution to the issue is found, I would strongly encourage you to show your appreciation to the teacher by sending a note to the principal expressing your gratitude for the manner in which the school responded to you and your child.  Your relationship with the teacher (and principal) will set the tone for the entire year.

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