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Parenting style matters - a lot!

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

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The Terror of Night Terrors

 

 

Few things are more terrifying for a parent than the first time their child has a night terror. Night terrors are different than bad dreams or nightmares.

Bad dreams and nightmares happen to virtually everybody and occur during the REM sleep phase (rapid eye movement). Researchers have discovered that even fetuses have dreams – including “bad” ones. Bad dreams may cause facial grimaces, moving, thrashing about and may result in being wakened up. If a child does wake up, he will usually fall back to sleep quickly but may need to be comforted by mom or dad first. He may remember parts of the dream in the morning.

Night terrors occur in about 10% of children and typically occur during the non-REM sleep phase in the first few hours of sleep. The usual ages of children experiencing night terrors is 3 to 12 years but a very small percentage may experience them into adulthood.

During the terror, a child’s eyes may be wide open but he is not awake. He may cry, scream, hyperventalate, sit up or even get out of bed. He may push the parent away, fight against being comforted and act in very strange ways. The terror typically lasts only a few minutes but can go on for as long as 30 minutes.

The child will return to a peaceful sleep once the episode passes and will usually have no recollection of the incident in the morning.

Night terrors are truly terrifying for the parent but the child suffers absolutely no ill effect and rarely needs the pediatrician to become involved.

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+ Lick Your Kids

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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