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Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

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Trauma in Children

It is estimated that 40% of North American children will have at least one potentially traumatizing experience by the time they are 18 years old including: – death of a parent or sibling – ongoing abuse – physical, mental, sexual – serious accident – natural disaster – witnessing domestic violence – violent crime How adults respond to children during and after traumatic events can make an enormous difference in the eventual outcome – both for […]

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Crash Test Mommy / Daddy in Aylmer

I will once again be presenting a workshop to the parents of Davenport Public School in Aylmer. This time it is  “Crash Test Mommy / Daddy” and it is a  2 hour presentation that is filled with sanity saving strategies to deal with behaviour issues of children ranging in age from toddlers to teens. Date:   February 5, 2013 Time:  6:30 – 8:30 PM Place: Davenport Public School 80 Rutherford Ave. Aylmer, Ontario (519) 773-9216 […]

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Neural Plasticity of the Prepubescent Brain

A normal 5 year old child has little difficulty learning and fluently speaking a foreign language. Learning new physical skills such as riding a bike or skiing can be achieved with relative ease during early childhood. After puberty , acquiring new skills will probably not be as easy because the areas of the brain associated with these types of skills becomes more rigid, not as plastic. The “post pubescent” brain, undergoes a rewiring of its […]

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Teenagers

Between 1996 and 2005, the proportion of girls and women in the US taking antidepressant medications roughly doubled, from 7.5 percent to 13.4 percent; more than 1 in 8 females in the US now takes antidepressant medication. Boys and girls are both having problems, but they’re having different problems. Many of the boys who are being sent to the psychologist or psychiatrist are being referred for problems such as ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder. The […]

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Child & Youth Worker – Fanshawe College

I am looking forward to the upcoming semester starting January 7  as Fanshawe College (Woodstock campus) begins  its CWY program for 2013. I am privileged to teach the course “Fundamentals of Human Learning” to the first year students. This program is a 3 year diploma program that prepares students to work with young people in schools, group homes, detention centres and day care centres. Three semesters are devoted to academic work at the college and […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

(D.A. – St. Thomas)