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Parenting style matters - a lot!

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

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11 Problems Associated with Providing Foster Care to “Disturbed” Children

1. removal from the “maltreating” home is delayed
2. “maltreating” parents continue to sabotage current placement
3. increase in severity of disturbance in today’s foster / adopted children
4. inadequate preparation and follow-up support to foster /  adoption parents
5. failure to equip foster / adoption parents with practical   therapeutic strategies
6. foster / adoption parents receive a “disturbed” child, and are then later misperceived that they might  be the source of the child’s disturbance
7. the foster / adopted families are excluded from the “treatment team” though they are the ones who  often know the child best and who have the greatest  therapeutic impact on them
8. foster parents are given the most responsibility and  the least amount of authority
9. foster parents are asked to become intimately involved with the child, yet are “chastised” if they become “overly zealous advocates” for the  child
10. little or no respite care to allow for parent refueling
11. the “experts” don’t have the answers
 
OVERCOMING ATTACHMENT DISORDER IS NO EASY TASK –
THE REWARDS HOWEVER LAST A LIFETIME
 

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)