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It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Hurt people hurt people.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

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Violent Video Games

 

 

The following is a scene from Grand Theft Auto : Vice City. It is a first person game where the player controls all the characters and is awarded points for behaving in certain ways.

You steal a geek’s Corvette and speed along Miami’s roadways. You turn up the volume on the car’s radio. You see a pretty woman standing beside the road and slam on the brakes. She walks over to your car, smiles and asks “You want to have a good time?”. She’s a prostitute. You let her in the car, have simulated sex with her, then shoot her in the head with the pistol you stole earlier from a policemen you murdered. As she dies, blood pouring from her head, you retrieve the money you gave her.

In this game you get extra points for shooting the prostitute and are awarded double points for shooting police officers.

The experts do not all agree about the effect  these types of games have on  our young people but there is a growing body of evidence that  links violent video games with serious anti social behaviour. Professor Craig Anderson (Iowa State University) says the evidence is every bit as strong as the evidence linking second-hand smoke to lung cancer. (“Violent Video Games: Myths,facts and unanswered questions”, Psychological Science Agenda, volume 16, October 2003)

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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